Monday, 9 February 2015

Fifty Shades of Dismay

Curious? Try staggered. This is one of many billboards for the upcoming movie, Fifty Shades of Grey. I cannot for the life of me work out how so many people in our society have the social dumbs to be so excited for a film that glorifies possibly the most sexist story of our generation.

Tony Abbott cops it left right and center for supposedly being a misogynist sexist when it comes to women in cabinet, yet thousands of similar "feminists" are drooling at the thought of watching a movie where a male dominates and abuses a woman. MISOGYNY!

And one guess when the film opens. Valentines day! Oh the irony. Could you pick a more un-loving movie to air on the day we celebrate love and romance?

The hype for the film has been huge. Even KIIS FM in Melbourne have been heavily promoting this film knowing a large demographic of listeners are pre-pubescent and teenage girls. How many parents seriously want their kids exposed to BDSM?

Dakota Johnson certainly doesn't and she plays one of the main roles. She is on record saying the following about the intense scenes of sexual discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism that make up 20 minutes of a 100 minute film:
"I don't want my family to see it, because it's inappropriate. Or my brother's friends that I grew up with. Also there's part of me that's like, I don't want anyone to see this movie - just kidding."
Johnson's mother, Melanie Griffith will kindly oblige. Her comments:
"I have not seen Fifty Shades of Grey. I don't think I'm going to see it."
Before adding that her 24 year old daughter told her:
"You guys cannot come. There's no way."
Griffith continued:
"She's amazing - so good. It's just so beautiful to see her doing this."
So beautiful she won't go and see her daughter's film because her daughter thinks it is inappropriate to do so? 

Dakota Johnson is not the only star of the film questioning its appropriateness. Jamie Dornan, who plays Christian Grey, is quoted as saying the following:
"When my daughter's 18, I'm not going to be going, 'You've gotta watch Daddy in Fifty Shades Of Grey.'"
"Some of the Red Room stuff was uncomfortable. There were times when Dakota was not wearing much and I had to do stuff to her that I'd never choose to do to a woman." 
For those who aren't familiar with the story, the Red Room was Grey's secret sex dungeon where he sexually dominated Anastasia Steele (Dakota Johnson).

Dornan also commented on the training sessions where he watched BDSM clips in order to get an idea of what he was to act out: 
"I kissed my wife and baby goodnight and went to watch a dominant/submissive session in a dungeon."
If the main actor and actress think the film is too bad for their own families to watch, why is it supposedly ok for everyone else? 

The feverish excitement to the up coming "mummy porn" film is a study in "feminist" hypocrisy. While the modern day feminist moves mountains to place woman on equal footing with men (and so they should be) the same people claim that the sexual encounters in this story provide an opportunity for women to liberate themselves.

I don't know too many women who would enjoy a girls night out to watch a guy perform sadism and masochism on a woman. I know even less who would actively engage in it.

Oh but remember it's supposedly courageous and empowering for women to explore the world of sexual dominance (i.e. violence) and submission (their words not mine).

Not in my book. A courageous and empowering woman is one who calls this for what it is and understands that true love is about treating each other with human dignity in equal measure, rather than an animal instinct whereby a man can totally control a woman via violent sex sessions in a pre-prepared "Red Room". 

I know what I will be doing on Valentine's Day and it won't involve Fifty Shades of Grey, a Red Room or a will to abuse my wife.

All the best,
Dom Meese


  1. Not a well written article. You are on the right track though and I very much disagree with the book and movie. But with so much to choose from with his controlling, abusive behaviour outside of sex and you focus only on the BDSM? It just feel likes you wasted an opportunity to get the message across properly.

  2. Thanks for your comment. As you said, there is so much to choose from when approaching this book/movie. I can't say it all, unless you want to read a thesis. I don't think I focussed solely on the BDSM aspect. I was merely demonstrating that even the lead roles are uncomfortable with the movie, while touching on the irony of it airing on Valentine's Day and how it does not liberate women.
    If you have some thoughts on the controlling aspect which I chose not to delve into, I'm more than happy for you to provide those thoughts in an additional comment. I’d happily promote the discussion.